Stuck in old
When new clients reach out to me, they often describe a mix of these shared experiences:
- Perpetually racing the clock – and being exhausted
- Having too much to do – and being overwhelmed
- Facing a big life transition – and wanting to make the most of it
- Not performing to their potential – and wanting to step up their game
- Seeking clarity, vision, purpose, or strategies for life’s evolving landscape
- Having made attempts to change in the past – and experienced “failure”
- Sensing that “finally figuring this out” will be hard work – and worth it
- Being committed to change – but not sure how to go about it
- Being excited to work with someone who “gets it”, believes in them, and is a compassionate, experienced guide and partner
Let’s Talk About Your Goal
Coaching is a goal-and-action oriented program that looks to the future.
So I invite you to consider:
What’s the thing you hope to achieve with my support?
It’s important that we identify your goal early on in our partnership and be able to articulate it clearly. Having a clear goal helps us know where to invest our attention and efforts, lets us know when we’re getting off track, and allows us to monitor our progress. And of course, it gives us a finish line to cross over! Some clients are familiar and comfortable with goal setting, other clients are less so – and that’s okay. I’ll meet you where you’re at and we can go together from there.
embrace a new view?
These are the 3 areas where I support clients, with some examples of things we can work on together.
Goals related to Time
- Evaluating how you currently spend your time, and making desired changes
- Managing time, including how you schedule and calendar it
- Budgeting your energy, managing your attention, and staying focused
- Becoming more aware of time and its passage
- Understanding your procrastination, and learning to anticipate it and avoid it
- Building time into your day for planning, reflection, transitions, and self care
- Setting boundaries and creating balance between the various “parts” of life
Goals related to Tasks
- Inventorying all the to-do’s on your plate, and looking closely at the results
- Managing your to-do’s, including how you prepare for them and engage in them
- Developing systems for capturing and tracking new to-do’s as they surface
- Learning to prioritize your tasks
- Recognizing and learning to let go of your perfectionism
- Following through and completing tasks
- Building some efficiencies into your routines
- Strategically delegating and saying “no” to requests
Goals related to Transitions
- Finding purpose/identity in a new phase of life
- Getting through a move, or settling into a new community
- Adapting to a changing family, emerging from divorce, or becoming an empty-nester
- Growing a business, navigating a career transition, or shifting into retirement
- Resetting in the wake of a significant loss, illness, or injury
- Downsizing a lifetime of possessions, or planning for end-of-life considerations
- Tending to your evolving interests, commitments, and relationships
blaze a new trail?
Packing List: Essential Items!
As we prepare to hit the trail, there are some essential items we’ll want in our packs. These things make for an especially powerful coaching experience. Please take some time to consider where you stand with regard to each of them:
A growth mindset is a prerequisite for coaching success. A great book on this topic is Mindset by Carol S. Dweck, PhD. Here are some growth-oriented beliefs and traits; do these resonate with you?
- A genuine belief that change is possible
- Openness to learning
- Commitment to giving one’s fullest effort
- Receptivity to constructive feedback
- Persistence in the face of setbacks
- Willingness to try new things, to explore new perspectives
Honest-to-goodness curiosity about yourself is another key ingredient for coaching success. You must be willing to be honest with yourself (and me) and explore the thoughts, feelings, beliefs, assumptions, and behaviors that have gotten you to this place in life.
- Do they still serve you?
- How do you get in your own way?
- Who do you have the capacity to be?
- What opportunities exist for change?
News flash! The path to achieving big change will almost always have some potholes, cliffs, and blind curves along the way. Most of us know this from “failed” attempts in the past. Having the support of a coach can help keep you on the path – but you also have to be ready for the adventure.
- Are you in a place of strong mental health?
- Are you genuinely motivated?
- Are you willing to work hard?
- Can you commit the time that’s needed?
- Does coaching fit in your budget?
It’s important to understand that coaching is not a quick fix. It’s an iterative process that engages the human heart and brain (complicated beasts!) and metes out its rewards gradually – generally in proportion to what you’ve put in. In the end it supports you in becoming a more competent, resilient, and resourceful human being.
- Are you able to be patient?
- Can you trust in me as your coach?
- Are you willing to follow the basic structural elements of the program?